Advice Regarding Minister Boyfriend

I have a challenge. I am currently dating a minister and we have discussed marriage. But lately I have noticed another younger women hugging him. On this past Sunday she not only hugged him but kissed and told him "I Love You". Now needless to say, this was quite disturbing to me. As he sees it, ministers get hugs from time to and he acted as if it was no big deal. Because I have changed and am a new creature in Christ I am trying to be understanding, but the old creature would have got in her face and told her a thing or three. In this situation I know I have changed. I have not said a word, but I really need some advice. What do I do?

Jacqueline

Please read Tracie Putnam's response

Balancing Home Life & Spiritual Gifts

Hello to all. My name is Consuella and I have a question for ladies who have been married 25 years or more. I am in the process of looking for a mentor from my church, but until God leads me to the right person, I felt it was also important to seek guidance via this avenue as well. My problem is that I am growing in every way. I am no longer the person I was when I first married my husband. I love him dearly, but at times I feel he fears the talents God gave me. We talk and he assures me that he wants me to grow, but there is a block somewhere. He makes statements like this, "God won't bless your gift separate from mine." I think he is in error there, but he wants our gifts to be bound together. We do have a ministry, but there are things I want to do separate from that ministry like combining my personal gift, with my love of writing, to inspire people, in particular women, worldwide. He even becomes passive aggressive and won't participate in the things I am involved in. I would love to get his input on the books I have written, but he won't read them. The last month, he has softened, and God seems to be working something out. I will be patient, but I need to know, aside from our ministry together, is it ok for me to pursue that thing inside of me I feel God has given me?

Consuella,
TX

Please read Sandy Denton's Response

Future Pastor's Wife

My husband has been called in to the ministry. He has just finished his first year of college. I'm finding that he is getting a great education and mentoring, but there isn't anything out there to prepare the wife for the ministry. Is there any advice you could give to someone just entering in to this ministry??

Thanks!
Carissa

Maine

Needing a Fresh Perspective

I'm so thankful for this website. I need some godly advice. My heart is so torn between all the responsibilites I have. I am a mother, a ministers wife, a teacher, and the list seems to never end. I know this is the case with most women, and I'm not complaining, I love every area of my life. The problems is this, I feel like for every one thing I get right there are two things I've forgotten, messed up, or could have done better. I want desperatly to be organized and to know what to do when and how to do well, but I can never seem to get there no matter how hard I try something important is always left undone. I either need some advice on how to do better or either a fresh perspective on how to rest inspite of things not being just so. I don't need things to be perfect for me, but I know that my life and my choices affect other people. That matters to me. I want more than anything to represent Christ well. I know one of my problems is that I alway look at what is not done instead of enjoying the fruit of what has been done. Do you have any ideas on how I might can overcome this perspective?

~ Needing Perspective

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